In Tibet, way back a few hundred years ago, there lived a guru named Milarepa. Milarepa was renowned for his wisdom and his mastery of yoga. Milarepa's most promising pupil, Gambopa, was training to be a teacher like Milarepa. He desperately wanted to know everything that Milarepa had to teach. Milarepa would say: I've taught you everything but the one, most profound teaching. Unfortunately, you aren't ready for it yet. Needless to say, Gambopa was disappointed with Milarepa's words.
Finally, the day came when Gambopa was setting out to travel over the Himalaya Mountains to teach in India. Milarepa had not yet taught him the most profound teaching. Gambopa pleaded, but Milarepa only said: Sorry. You aren't ready for it yet. It's so profound that you wouldn't understand it.
Sadly, Gambopa trudged up the mountain path, leaving without having learned the most profound teaching. Suddenly he heard a faint shout from behind. There down in the valley was his teacher, Milarepa, waving his arms. The wind carried Milarepa's final words to Gambopa:
This manual is noteworthy by what is not in it. It is short and it is incomplete. If it has jostled some of your thinking about yourself, then it has done its job. You are on an adventure in change and healing. You can succeed. I know this because my teachers have been people like yourself who were sexually victimized. They proved that healing and recovery can happen - even when I doubted that it was possible. I no longer doubt.
Find people to share with and to work with. Healing work is easier with company. During some stages it is best to have coaching from a good counsellor. During the dark moments of victimization there was always someone looking out for you. That someone is you. Go ahead. Reclaim your Self.